Avatar Galextra April 7th, 2009 Greetings Sir, I am writing to inform you about an extremely disturbing incident which my husband and I experienced at the hands of one of your cashiers less than a week ago. Both my husband and I are very concerned, and disappointed, about the disrespectful, and abusive manner in which we were treated by this particular cashier on that day. In sharing the details of this incident it is my intention to inform you about the serious impact that this kind of conduct on the part of this particular cashier – and other workers who behave in a similar manner – so that you can look carefully into this matter in order to understand the serious consequences that this type of irresponsible conduct have: not just on the moral of customers who shop in your store, but also on the loss of potential customers on your bottom line as a business in the future. I am also bringing this incident to your attention because as an Avatar it is part of my job to identify, and address problems of different kind as they show themselves to me in different settings to those human beings who are causing, or creating, problems for others as well as for themselves, for one reason or another. Part of my work as an Avatar is to also show, and teach human beings the manner in which they need to go about carefully searching and honestly finding and applying solutions to all of the hosts of different problems, conflicts, wrongs, and injustices that the humankind has been struggling as a race of beings to understand, and resolve for far to long now. That is part of what I have been doing as a highly evolved spiritual master on this planet since I was a small child. My husband alerted me that there was a restriction on the number of items (1 to 16) that could be checked out at that counter; and he nodded towards the line of cash register number four as one which was open that we could line up in, without taking the opportunity to quickly check the profile of the cashier who was working at that register number four, which is something that he rarely does anymore, and leaves for me to do, as I will explain later. He also spoke two crucial words to me that would turn out to be the deciding reason why we ended up in line number four, and why I am now writing this letter to you about the incident that took place with the cashier who was working at that register at the time. Andraggon said to me: “Hone, this line!” He was asking a question as far as he was concerned but I saw it as him making a statement that we should get in that line, which had about four people ahead of us inside it. Our shopping cart was overfilled with items, which is something that has always happen whenever we show up there to do our monthly shopping. When it was our turn I proceeded to place the groceries onto the counter for the cashier to ring them in. While I was doing so my husband moved down to the end of the counter to begin packing them inside the sturdy striped plastic zipped up packs that we also bring to the grocery store with us to use instead of buying plastic bags from the cashier or even using empty boxes from the wooden bins located near the front of the store. Joe, if I may call you my your face name, we are a very spiritually developed, and a highly evolved couple, who has developed and practice an unusual and precise ritual, with a very specific and discipline code of conduct depending on the gender of the person or persons whom we have to physically interact with at the time, in any given setting - including dealing with cashiers, and other workers, inside grocery stores such as your No Frills Store, and other types of businesses such as government agencies, banking institutions, and the people working in professions such as the medical, legal, dental, and education. If the person we have to deal with happens to be a woman then I am the one who is given the job, and the responsibility, to speak to that person, and while I am doing so my husband assumes the role of someone who is there to support his wife, while making sure that he has little or no interaction with that female staff member whom I am speaking to at the time. This includes his taking specific steps to position himself, and also place his view, where he is able to avoid looking in the direction of that person at anytime before, during, and after I finish my dealings with her. It is as if that person is there but becomes as invisible as a ghost whose presence is registered as a peripheral image to the point where you do not know what they look like or even what they are wearing. The same is true in a situation where the person we have to deal with happens to be a man. I follow the same code of conduct that he does that I just outlined. Before, during, and after he finishes dealing with that male worker, I position myself, and place my view, where I am able to pay attention to his conversation with that male, without looking to see what he looks like, or what he is doing, whether he is sitting, standing, or moving about. When we are shopping in a large grocery store such as yours, for example, if the cashier is a female, which has almost always been the case since we have been shopping there for almost a year now, I will deal with that worker myself: including placing the groceries on the counter, and paying for them once the final total is rung in. During this process my husband makes it a point to make sure that he does not have any interaction or any form of contact with that female cashier, including avoiding even checking to see what that particular cashier happens to look like, or even the manner in which she is dressed. Sometimes he will help me with unloading the groceries from the shopping cart, especially with the heavy items, and place them at the front of the counter; and sometimes he will help by handing grocery items from the shopping cart to me, particularly if our cart is overloaded with a lot of groceries, which it usually is when we shop at your No Frills Store. As soon as he is finished helping me to unload our groceries from our shopping cart onto the counter, if I ask him to help me to do so, he quickly moves to the end of that counter to begin the process of packing our groceries inside our large shopping bags. The only time that he usually positions himself near the cash register is whenever we are paying by debit instead of by cash, because his eye sight is somewhat better than my own and I refuse to use prescription glasses in public for my own reasons. On this particular afternoon, my husband helped me by placing just a few items on the counter, including the large container of cat litter for our cat, before he moved down to the end of the counter to start packing our groceries. While he was doing so the cashier in question began to turn her head around and started to look at my husband as he proceeded to pack the groceries inside our shopping backs to see what he was doing. Over the next five or so minutes she proceeded to do the same thing another two or three times before I finally decided to speak to her about her unprofessional conduct as a cashier, and her disrespectful behavior towards myself, and my husband. What she was doing was wrong. She was there as one of the store’s cashier to ring in the groceries of customers who bring their groceries to her register for her to do so - whether the customers happen to be shopping there as individuals, or as a group, or as a couple, as is true in our case. And if it happens to be a couple, such as we are, then it is the responsibility of the cashier to give her full attention to her job of making sure that she rings through each item correctly and in an efficient manner. What she is not there to do is to spent any of her time looking at the husband, or the boyfriend, of a customer whose grocery items she is ringing through her cash register – in an attempt to entice him into playing flirtatious and mating games with her: by stroking and inflating his “manly ego”, and psychically and mentally caressing his easily stimulated loins, as men are especially socialized to react when a female pays attention to them in this culture, particularly if that female is a young woman. I was one person who was more than ready, and willing, to let her know about her disrespectful, irresponsible, and harmful behavior. I am the Avatar who has arrived here on this planet as “the musician who will come and change the world” – as predicted during the 1930’s by America’s greatest seer, Edgar Cayce, and also by the authors of the largest and most comprehensive work on spirituality, called The Urantia Book: through the body of deep truths, true insights, and ancient knowledge that I have brought with to this planet to teach, and show, human beings the methods, means, and process that they each need to uplift, empower, and transform their lives so that the human race can finally learn to live in a state of perfect harmony, true cooperation, lasting peace, permanent abundance, and a deep reverence for all of life living on this plundered, wounded, depleted, poisoned, and diminished planet, for good! That is who I am, and the true nature of the work that I am here on this Earth to get done in this lifetime. Part of the work that I do is to bring attention to problems that I encounter in my daily life, especially, problems that are causing and feeding the harmful way of thinking and the destructive way of living that is diminishing, degrading, and destroying the quality and fabric of life on this planet, not just for the human race – but for all of life living here. Only by showing human beings the different forms of afflictions, and conflictions, that they are practicing, embracing, and protecting through their words and deeds in their daily lives will they be able to begin to identify, examine, resolve, and eliminate all these different forms of vices from their individual and collective lives on this planet over a period of time. For the past few decades I have been showing people in all walks of life many of the different types of problems that I have observe them displaying in the workplace, retails stores, public transit system, school system, medical profession, justice system, and wherever human beings interact on a daily basis. When that cashier continued to turn around to look at my husband as he went quietly and calmly about his business of packing our groceries inside our large shopping bags, while I continued to place more of our groceries on the counter, I took the opportunity to let her know that she should spend her time paying attention to her job of ringing our groceries through her cash register – instead of taking the time to continuously looking back in the direction of my husband to try to get his attention. Her reaction to my statement to her was typical of the manner that human beings have been taught, and programmed, to respond whenever they are criticized for doing or saying something that could bring them some type of chastisement or some form of punishment: “admit nothing and deny everything” – and then retaliate!” And that is exactly what this cashier did when I told her about her disrespectful and unprofessional behavior towards myself, and also my husband that afternoon. She denied that she was doing what I was telling her that she was doing wrong, as if in her denial she expected me to question, reconsider, and even change the statement that I was making which accused her of conducting herself in the disrespectful manner that I had told her that she had just done repeatedly. I did not change my statement, did not question, nor doubt the truth about what I had just observed her doing, not even for a second, as human beings have a habit of doing on a regular basis when they are asked to verify or confirm the facts about comments they make that hold others accountable for their harmful words or wrong deeds. In fact, had this cashier been aware of the true identity of the person who was pointing out her disrespectful behavior to her, and the true nature of the work that I do - she would have hesitated to behave in the disgraceful manner in which she did that afternoon as one of your employees working inside your store. My name is Avatar Galextra and I am a member of the most ancient and the most evolved group of beings anywhere in the Cosmos, known as the Committee Of Gods, who is here on the blue planet to introduce an ascension project called A New Way Of Being in the form of a massive global undertaking known as Operation Bring All Beings Together. It is a project, and an operation, that is intended to give birth to a large global and grass root movement that will create a deep shift in the individual and collective consciousness of not just members of the human race but all life forms sharing this globe with them – that will prepare all of life living here to undergo a deep transformation in their view, and treatment, of themselves, each other, and the world they live inside of in the near future. Over the course of my turbulent life since I incarnated here on this planet in the body of a newborn human being, on the twin Caribbean Island with the three peaks called Trinidad and Tobago, I have had untold opportunities to study and observe my fellow human beings from all walks of life as they go about living their mortal lives here. Though I came to this planet, with practically all of my abilities as an Avatar left behind, so that I would have to work hard to regain the use of any of them: one of the things that I learned, or relearned, at an early age was the ability to use my clear and developed inner sight to ‘read people like an open book’, whether they are speaking or not speaking, sitting, standing, or moving. It is an ability that anyone can develop over a period of many lifetimes by first learning to be true to themselves, by truly striving to find the truth, speak the truth, and live the truth in all areas of their own private lives, as well as public lives, all of the time so that they learn to bring an end to a life of living a lie at any kind at anytime for any reason. In this way as they identify, understand, and resolve each problem through a daily inventory that they take of their own life, in which they view themselves, each other, and the world in which they live: they will also begin to remove the layers of negative, and twisted energy that is preventing their inner light from radiating more and more brightly; and their inner sight ( third eye, ancient eye) will become clearer, more focused, and crystallized so that they can begin to see the larger picture, as well as develop a bird’s eye view of anything, everything, and anyone who appears in view, or who they place in their view. That is the clarity of sight, and the depth of insight that comes over a period of many lifetimes of diligent, honest, thorough, and extensive work to any and every true and dedicated seekers of the truth. And Gods are the most developed and the most evolved of beings in the use and practice of this hard earned and deeply rewarding ability of which I am speaking. This cashier insisted that she was not looking at my husband as I had informed her that she had done a number of times, in an effort to try to entice my husband into flirting with her, and eventually sleeping with her, if the opportunity presents itself. And I stated to her that this was exactly what she had done. She became even more defensive and stated to me: “what would I want with an old man!” Her attempt to insult, and diminish my husband did not work. Andraggon is one man who does not feel degraded or disrespected when anyone refers to him as an “old man.” His ego is no longer tied to his loins as males on this planet have had done to them – starting in their adolescent years - to the point where they can be easily manipulated like human robots and living puppets into becoming very proud, or very ashamed, through comments that are made, or deeds that are done, by others to either praise or ridicule his masculinity, virility, age, occupation, education, and other issues which are used in this culture to define and determine one’s value and usefulness as a human being, and especially around issues about what it means to be a “real man” on this planet. Neither he, nor I have any problem with the idea about becoming old, or about growing old in the future in this lifetime. In fact, he knows himself to be an ancient being who live mortal lives over time that can be as short as that of an infant and as long as an elder in any society. So he was not offended by that comment. However, he was disturbed by the fact that this cashier had made that comment as an effort to disrespect not just himself – but especially the lady whom he has declared to the world: that he is truly honored and deeply humbled to proclaim as his wife, as well as his master teacher. When this cashier refused to admit what she did, and I repeated my statement that she had behaved in exactly the manner that I had stated to her, and as the tension increased - both of our voices escalated as this conversation turned into a loud argument. Most people are made to feel embarrassed and diminished when they are involved in incidents that are seen as creating a public disturbance to the people working there, or to the management of that particular store, for example, in which that incident is taking place, because they don’t want others to see them as individuals who are creating trouble. Nor do they want other people in those settings to know about any personal problem that they are experiencing in their dealings with that particular store, for example; and they would prefer to have their concerns addressed in a discreet, quiet, and calm manner. I am one human being who does not feel embarrassment, shame, or humiliation in anyway, at anytime, for any reason – for any decision that I make or any action that I take in the course of living my life as the Avatar who is here on the blue planet ‘to bring all beings together and bring a new way of being to all of life living here’. I do not have the burden of having an ego that works separately from my greater self, which would encourage and pressure me to be constantly concerned about impressions of what others think, or do not think, about anything I do or say at any time in any situation in my life as a human being. In fact, I am one human being who truly does not care what others think about me, or about any decisions that I make, or any action that I take, in the course of living my life. One of the teachings that I have shared with my fellow human beings for decades now is about the need for them to identify, and practice the principles of one of the most sacred and ancient of all spiritual laws in existence called – “The Law Of Harmlessness”: “This is a law which states that you have the right to live your own life in anyway that you choose – but you do not have the right to use your life to abuse or harm the lives of others in any way for any reason at any time.” The only concern I have in the course of living my life, and doing my work, as an Avatar – in any situation such as the incident with one of your cashiers: is that I make sure that I do not say or do anything that disrespects, degrades, violates, or diminishes, others in any way. So when this disrespectful, and flirtatious, cashier chose to react in the defensive and angry manner in which she did that afternoon, when I quietly and calmly informed her about her unprofessional behavior, I just held my ground and refused to allow her to force me into accepting her denial that she had not done what I had said she did. In the heat of this loud exchange this cashier asked me if I wanted someone else to ring in my groceries, and I told her that I did, and then she left the cash register and started to walk away. Before she did so, however, she shouted a few words towards me, that I have never heard spoken in a grocery store by an employee to a customer, or by an employee of any place of business that is considered to be a reputable establishment to any customer. This cashier working inside your No Frills Store turned towards me as she was walking away from that cash register and shouted that: “You are a f*%*king idiot!” At the same time one of your other cashiers showed up at that cash register, and asked me what had taken place. I spoke briefly to her about what had taken place as she finished ringing in the last few of the many items that we purchased in your store that afternoon, including eight cases of your Ensure Plus, which we are yet unable to have supplied for us by the grocery store where we have been placing our special orders for different bulk items for a few years now. This cashier who replaced the abusive one apologized to me for the conduct of her co-worker. She also indicated to us that she would report this incident to the store’s manager, and she also asked me if there was anything that I wanted her to write down in her report to the management. I informed her about the insulting comment that was made by that cashier calling my husband an “old man”, and about the disgraceful and vulgar comment that she made about me being “an f&%king idiot.” Profanity has no place being spoken inside a grocery store, especially by anyone working in that store to a customer or even to a fellow co-worker. In fact it is a way of speaking that disrespects not just the person whom such spiritually toxic vibration is hurled towards - but it also disrespects as well as diminishes the one using such harmful and vulgar language; and has no place in any society whose members are truly seeking to individually, and collectively, to evolve spiritually into a developed race of beings. However, flirtatious comments, and enticing conduct, on the part of an employee towards any customer shopping inside a grocery store is something that should not be encouraged or practiced there or anywhere in society, for that matter, because it has even more of a damaging and devastating impact on every aspect of the lives of human beings. It is a form of cultural cancer that eventually destroys the fabric and foundation of every type of relationship that human beings engage in during the course of their mortal lives, like a social virus, more deeply, severely, and extensively than human beings will ever become aware of. Over the years that we have been together as a married couple my husband and I have constantly encountered situations of dealing with female cashiers working in grocery stores, retail stores in general, as well as banks, government agencies, and other places, who are constantly behaving as if they have a right to disrespect me, to try to degrade me by using their “female charm” to try to get my husband’s attention in an attempt to entice him into flirting with them – through their seductive body language, their inviting smiles, their friendly words, and through the different forms of seductive and flirtatious communications that human beings are taught to practice and encourage in their interaction with each other, especially with people of the opposite gender. It is a form of self serving, selfish, and self centered behavior that we have encountered as a couple all of our lives together. In fact, for most of our life as a married couple I have had to deal with the behavior of men, as well as teenage boys, who used all forms of macho and manly behavior to try to intimidate or entice me into paying attention to them, to try to force me into flirting with them, going on dates with them, or even to marry them whether I was in the workplace, public places, and just about anywhere – by myself, with my children, and even with my husband. Yet not once was anyone, of any gender, able to entice, intimidate, or force me into even noticing any of them, much less even to show any kind of interest in any of them, except as individuals whom I recognize and treat as my human brothers, and human sisters, who are also fellow immortal sons and daughters of Gods, who are living mortal lives on this planet. Over the years men have come to see and know by looking at my commanding presence, strong personality, and fearless attitude that I am one woman that they cannot intimidate, force, or entice into playing any of these games. But they still keep looking for different and more subtle ways, to try to prove that every woman can be conquered by a man through the strength and the appeal of the different assets that men have come to call, and claim, as their own on this planet. However they now usually do so from a distance. This is one woman who will never allow any man to use me to disrespect, degrade, or diminish another woman in any way at anytime for any reason; this is one woman who will not allow anyone to use me as a pawn to harm any member of life at any time in my life. These mating rituals, these flirting games that human beings are taught, and programmed, from their adolescent years, to perform through social rituals that are practiced to inflate the ego and stimulate the loins of the opposite sex especially in practically every kind of interaction that they have with each other – are truly different forms of social prostitution that are at the heart of all the social problems that are poisoning, corrupting, and destroying all of the different relationship that human beings have with each other: in the workplace, inside the home, in places of worship, studies, recreation, and so on. In the entertainment mediums like the television industry, the motion picture industry, the music industry, for example, these mating games have become seductive rituals that are used to sell goods and services of all kinds including the commercials that are found everywhere inside and outside of these mediums, with women and men being used as sexual weapons and trophies to increase profit margins for the corporate culture that dominates all areas of people’s lives on this planet for many decades now. These mating rituals, these flirting movements, these seductive games, have become accepted as a normal and natural behavior for human beings to practice with each other; and they have become recognized and promoted as powerful cultural tools for manipulation, control, and exploitation, of human beings in peacetime, during wars, at work, in school, inside the boardroom, at social gatherings, inside the bedroom especially, and in every private and public areas of human live on this planet. Human beings have held the belief for ages now that they are a race of spiritually flawed beings, who are loaded with a mixture of vices and virtues that make them permanent slaves to their self serving egos, and their lustful and self centered loins for desires of one form or another – who must be caged up inside social jungles called civilizations, where they are controlled by laws that are put in place to keep them from killing each other or from destroying other nations. As long as they hold, and hold onto, these misguided beliefs about themselves, and the world they live inside of, they will continue to practice, promote, and protect this harmful way of thinking and this destructive way of living that they have come to accept as a normal and natural part of their existence. It is my hope that the content of this letter that I have shared with you, as well as with your associate manager, Mr. Lawrence Summer, will provide you with a broader understanding and a deeper insight about the impact that disrespectful behavior of any form has on the quality of the relationships that human beings form with each other. In the case of the incident involving one of your cashiers, this kind of flirtatious behavior can cause people, such as myself, to name that kind of behavior whenever it shows itself in the actions of any of your cashiers especially. For over two decades now I have expressed my concerns to different managers and owners of different retail business located in shopping malls, plazas, and other commercial buildings, that they should not have children working in an environment where they have to interact with adults, especially with couples, and families in general, such as groceries stores, clothing stores, and banks. Human beings today live in a world – especially in developed nations such as Canada, and America, where the children are no longer raised by both parents, because most families today are single parent families, who are themselves usually forced to devote most of their time and energy working outside the home to provide for the families basic needs. The children are often left in the care of baby sitters and day care workers, and also spend most of their daily lives being parented by television and other influences in their young lives, which encourage and entice them into adopting a short sighted way of thinking, and practicing a harmful way of living, that disrespect relationships of all forms, devalues human beings who are not seen as members of their own groups, and attack anyone and anything that possess qualities or assets that they themselves have not been taught to own and develop in their own lives. Children today are not taught to adopt or practice good manners, sound morals, or solid ethics in any area of their lives, and instead are taught to use profanity as a second language, to embrace all forms of immoral behavior, and to glorify and practice disrespectful behavior of all kinds. The children, or teenagers, working in your No Frills Store, for example, are casualties and products of this kind of socially deformed, spiritually dysfunctional, and economically competitive cultures that are now found everywhere on this planet. The female teenage cashiers that seem to make up most of your cashier staff, for example, are products of this disrespectful way of living that is found everywhere on this planet, which have taught them that it is alright to play flirting games with any male who shows up in your store – especially if he happens to show up there with his wife, or his girlfriend, if he is not married. This is the disturbing message that these kids, of both genders, are fed 24/7 especially by the different television programs, music videos, motion pictures, and internet activity – that are intruding, interfering, disrupting, and destroying any and every relationship that they encounter or observe, is not just fair game: but also something that they are taught that they each have a right to do all of their lives, before others do it to their own, or because it has been done to their own parents, or other relatives. I am not a supporter of children working in your store, or in any retail place of business. They are not trained to conduct themselves responsibly, and respectfully, in dealing with customers, especially customers who are there as couples, or even as single adults. I strongly advise, and encourage you to make the effort to hire adult workers in your store, first and foremost, so that adults in general, and couples such as my husband and I, and families as a whole, are not mistreated by any of your staff members when we come there to shop. Human beings should not reward bad behavior for any reason at any time in any setting period! And as customers who shop in your store we should not have to face the prospect of spending our money in a place of business where we are being mistreated by immature, unprofessional, and abusive workers of any age. What I am also hoping that you will make the effort to do, however, is to take steps to make sure that the teenagers working in your store, as well as the adults, are taught to treat your customers, as well as each other, in a manner that is respectful, responsible, and receptive – including when they are working as cashiers dealing with customers who are there as a single person, as a couple, or as a family. This is a policy and a practice that will help your business in the long run. It is also one that will serves to bring a sense of dignity, harmony, and integrity into the lives of not just each of your workers, as well as the rest of your staff members, including yourself: but it will also serve to bring the same uplifting and healing qualities into the lives of your customers, and the larger community in meaningful and dynamic ways that work to serve and protect the greater good of everyone who is connected to anyone who works, or shops in your No Frills Store. Thank you for taking the time to read the content of this chapter size letter from an Avatar. I look forward to hearing from you in the near future. Respectfully, CC. Mr Laurence Critch,
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